Socio - Sexuality Perspectives

 

     The Brotherhoods have charged Stelle with a goal: to produce the climate conducive to a civilization which promotes the development of advanced Egos. Every great civilization that has developed on Earth has been based on emotionally healthy, strong family units. At the core of these strong families were stable, genuine marriages that were balanced polar couplings. A balanced polar coupling is a join­ing together of a male and female Ego who are of approximately equal advancement, thus creating a single balanced and neutral entity, which is a true marriage.

     The Brothers have told Richard that less than one in ten marriages were balanced polar couplings—real marriages that are voluntarily monogamous, happy, invigorating, emotionally satisfying, and growth-engendering for both spouses. Such complete marriages are optimum for child rearing, and thus they are one of the foundations of a wholesome society which pro­duces Brothers as quickly and as readily as possible. Stelle already has become a society that encourages people to be in touch with themselves, comfortable with their sexuality, and in tune with how they fit into the world and relate with others.

     Many things in the present American culture hinder people from achieving the balanced polar couplings that lead to a civilization promoting the development of advanced Egos. The follow­ing is a brief list:

 

·   Birthing is often traumatic for both mother and infant; it should be a beautiful, uplifting experience for all.

·   We rear our children in less than optimal ways. We don’t satisfy our children’s needs when they truly need to be satisfied. We space our children too closely together so that it is difficult for the children to get the attention they need. (The Brothers have told us that it is optimal to space children at least six years apart so that each child can receive the intel­lectual stimulation and emotional nurturance he needs.)

·   Children are usually reared with low self-esteem. Since they find it very difficult to love themselves, they have a very difficult time truly loving another person.

·   Television is often used as a babysitter; the amount of time the child and his parents spend separate from each other is increased by the use of television. (The average American adult spends four to five hours a day watching T.V.)

·   In the United States, 46.4% of all married women work outside the home. The culture of America now defines a “fulfilled” woman as one who has a child, sets up child care for him, and then rejoins the work force to “fulfill” herself outside her home.

·   Recent studies have shown that only 7% of the American population lives in the so-called “ideal” American family unit: bread-winner father, homemaker mother, and their children. The culture seems to view a homemaker wife and mother as a luxury.

·   Americans practice sequential polygamy (a series of marriages or alignments).

·   Homosexuality is on the rise and reflects the increasing difficulty which people experience in developing a healthy and gratifying sexuality.

·   Schools, by the parents’ default, are taking over the primary education of the children and thus weakening the family units. The question arises: Are our schools institutions of learning or are they surrogate parents trying in vain to do the parents’ job?

 

     All of these are manifestations of a society that is out of balance and which tends to spawn individuals that are equally out of balance. It is a sobering fact that in America 40% (and still rising!) of all marriages end in divorce, and many more stay together unhappily. Such a trend cannot go for long unchecked before it leads to the disintegration of the civilization.

     In Stelle, we are heading in a different direc­tion. We hold several things as essential for the development of the growth-producing civil­ization we desire. Of primary importance is the enhancement of the mother-child relationship.

     We feel that the emotional needs of an infant can only be fully satisfied by his own mother. Thus, we strongly encourage our mothers to be full-time mothers and homemakers. We feel it is imperative to have strong, nurturing marriages, established before there are children involved in the relationship. It is also important that women and men be enthusiastic about develop­ing their femaleness and maleness as completely as possible—women wanting to fulfill themselves in their life situations as women and express themselves in womanly ways. Likewise, Stelle sees it important that men express themselves as men: content, happy, and secure with their maleness. We view with a concerned eye the disintegration of Twentieth Century American culture, and are using the information we are gleaning to help members of our society-in-the-making to emerge as whole, balanced men and women who are more in touch with the many aspects of their total sexuality.

 

     Sexuality is the total expression of male and female personality, psyche, and differentiated biological and social roles; and therefore encom­pass almost every phase of one’s life. The sexual drive is also the mainspring of human motiva­tion and energy and is the pivotal point around which the whole personality is constructed. If this all-pervading, creative force is properly directed in a child, his ability to love will emerge full-blown without his adulthood being warped into a guilt-ridden, angry, guilt-ridden personality. As we learn to rear our children from infancy with affection, cuddling, meeting all their needs as they arise, and bolstering their feelings of self-esteem, we will find that as they reach adolescence they will be more secure, serene, and sensitive to the rights of others.

 

     In Stelle, how are we coming closer to our goals in the area of socio-sexual relationships with others? We recognize that we are all products of Twentieth Century America. We have come to Stelle to carve out the “ultimate frontier;” to make possible a place in which we may advance optimally and in which our children may grow up. In Stelle we are strug­gling with the problems presented to us by our culture. We realize that it takes time to change basic beliefs. We are seeking to apply all the intelligence and facts that we can muster to change our community for the better. We do not know how long it is going to take but we realize that it may take at least another genera­tion. The path we have agreed to follow in Stelle—to produce a great civilization that will foster the development of advanced Egos—is a continually evolving one. That path is stim­ulating and demanding as we examine and reorder our ways of relating to each other so that we may always grow closer to our goal of Egoic perfection. We anticipate that our re­examination and refinement of social-sexual relationships will greatly enhance that evolution.

 

 

 

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