Unconditional Love


Q:     The idea of unconditional love is an idea that I have wrestled with so much over the years. At our stage—our, meaning, I guess, basically where mankind is and not where Adepts are—just where the average person is, we are not really advanced enough to seriously do unconditional love, are we?


RK:  Unconditional love only applies to babies.


Q:     Because we do need to be, as you and I were talking about the other day, discriminating, which may mean saying no or leave my environment or whatever, which some people may not proceed as being loving.


RK:  Read the New Testament. Christ did not put up with a whole bunch of junk from people. I mean, He loved everybody, literally loved everybody, but He did not let them get away with anything that they should not have been getting away with, but—


Q:     Those two sound mutually exclusive. Unconditional love and letting somebody else getting away with something that is not beneficial to your environment. I mean, they can both exist.


RK:  Well yes, but you are not being totally unconditional under those circumstances. But, you have a point. You can love a child regardless of what he does even though you do not care for the things that he does and you  try to straighten those things out and you do not put up with any nonsense from him because that is not loving to just allow them to do anything they want to do or get away with anything that they want to get away with. That does not mean you accept everything.


Q:     Depends on how you define “love”?


RK:  Yes. Love is a feeling that we have. Primarily, it is an energy that comes directly from the godhead, which we can use. It gives rise to wonderful feelings within our bodies. But, as I have said over and over again, it is a great creative and healing force of the Universe, as well as making us feel or experiencing love. Some people say unconditional love means you accept anything from anybody and you still love him. That is a good training for becoming a “doormat.”


Q:     I still think that you can do just as you do with a child. I mean, the child that you give unconditional love to, regardless of what they do. You can have somebody that is forty or fifty or sixty years old that never got past some of the childhood stages. I have looked at adults and I say, “You are where my child was three years ago. You are just an adult, but you have not grown out of it.” But, accepting that person for whatever he is, in his time and place, and his learning curve, and knowing that he has to go through those things just like my child went through, that just worries me. It is that unconditional love. But, hopefully he does not interfere with your environment. That is not welcoming him into your environment in a non-interfering basis just because you are giving him that unconditional love. I think it is two very separate things.


RK:  Well, there are some people who enter your environmental that would make it very, very difficult to be unconditionally loving toward.


Q:     Or, you can be loving to them, but they might not perceive it as love because you do not really do the things they want you to do.


RK:  Well, really loving is doing towards another person that which is for their greatest good. Sometimes, that which is for their greatest good sometimes sounds or feels a little harsh to them.




Would It Be Advisable to Just Love Everyone?


Question:     Would it be advisable to just love everyone?


Answer:       In order to protect yourself or know where you stand in the world, you have to make evaluations of people. Your opinions are not for spreading to others, however. Then it becomes gossip, and that carries severe karmic penalties. It is important that you know what is or can be operating in your environment. Some people are not worthy of love. They are spiteful, hateful individuals, and as such are difficult to love. You can like everyone in the whole world, but that does not mean that you have to try to bring them to your bosom or have them in your immediate environment. Christ can love everybody, but it is kind of difficult for us to do so in a practical way. It’s an ideal to shoot for, but there are some people that you had better, very wisely, be wary of. (04-1973)