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Ego’s Choice of Family Q: Do you feel that—I don’t
know the correct word—the entity that takes over the body of the infant upon
its first breath chooses the mother and father of their choice? RK: Yes. In other words, the circumstances and
genetic makeup; everything is at the behest of the incoming Ego. They choose
that. But, there is a prior agreement before the
mother and father incarnate even, between the parents-to-be and all of the
children that they are going to have, before even the parents incarnate. In
other words, if you have brothers and sisters, you selected those; believe it or not. Whether you cannot get along with them
even today, or again maybe you work very beautifully with your brothers and
sisters, you chose that arrangement before you incarnated; before your
parents incarnated. Now, there are provisions for last-minute changes from
either side and that usually can be affected while
the parents are asleep so that they will agree to whatever changes are going
on. Yet, the parents have to agree on a conscious level also, and in this
modern day and age, abortion is possible with considerable safety. It was not
so long ago that it was always possible to have an abortion, but you might die
in the process of performing the abortion. It was not usually a very
practical consideration. For
instance, we are very much concerned with the proper spacing of children in
our community so that each child receives full attention of the parents for
at least six years before the next child comes along. We think that maybe
three children is probably an optimum. So, it is
just a little bit better than zero-population growth, and that way the oldest
and the youngest are twelve years apart. That would be optimum, but it does
not always work out that way. I think that at least half the children that
are born were not planned so far as the
consciousness of the parents was concerned, but somewhere there is an
agreement. An incoming Ego has to depend upon both the prior Egoic agreement
and the parents’ present circumstances, so that they feel that
they can give the child all the things that the child needs, and that they
have the space to do the things that they need in order to promote their own
growth. Having six kids in six years tends
to be a tremendous strain on everybody, including the children and the
parents. So, I cannot think that that would be an
optimum situation, but it is being done all the time. We like to think that we have our
environment more in control here, and that there is a reason for doing what
we do. We have demonstrated through our process of rearing children that this
is indeed a very critical issue: that the optimum preparation for having high
intelligence and really good emotional stability.
That is a whole big subject that we are involved in
here; how we raise children. (11-1981) |
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